When is enough….enough?
When does giving yourself to others begin to deplete you?
When do you begin resenting the help you give to others because it takes so much out of you?
When does giving to others start to feel expected, because you’ve always been more then willing to do so?
When does the joy you have from giving to others, start to turn to dread?
Alas, I believe this has begun to happen to me. Yet how can that be? I pride myself on being “unselfish”. It is one of my greatest characteristics. Need something? Absolutely…..when, where, how much? This was always such a rewarding feeling, especially when helping family. Giving with no thought of receiving anything in return, is such an outstanding virtue. However as I look at this “giving” face in the mirror today, I don’t like what I see. I’m beginning to see the toll it’s taking on me.
How do I say no? The age old question and as much as I don’t want to, I fear I must learn how. I research, I google, I ask another’s advice…..how do I say no? It can’t be that difficult, I see others do it all the time!
So after all this research (10 ways to say no, how not to say yes, problems saying no) the most important thing I take away is…..it is ok to say no.
I give myself permission to say no, sometimes saying no…means saying yes to me, I am not evil for saying no.
What I need to realize is that the people who matter will understand, if they don’t, they are not people who matter.
I know this won’t come easy, and it certainly won’t happen overnight, but it’s a must.
I will tell myself over and over…..I can be a giving, kind and generous person and still say no.